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Dyspraxia edition
Just like everyone else, a person who has Dyspraxia living with hidden related differences is entitled to exercise their dignity & basic human rights.
* Never use a person with hidden difficulties to deny their human rights.
* Stop using a perceptive mindset to insult against a person's difficulties. Especially when are being pushed beyond their coping limitations and when undertaking tasks very challenging. They may appear different but it is not acceptable to make dehumanising comments. Their difficulties are not a choice to stop bothering them.
* if a person with dyspraxia is challenging something wrong or standing up against wrong attitudes you should never dismiss or make an ordering attitude.
It is very important to be aware of how a person with hidden differences can live their life naturally.
* Climate, environment, atmosphere,
A variation with surrounding climates, environments and atmosphere may affect a dyspraxic person to undertake and complete tasks or actions. Overbearing surroundings can disrupt how a person with differences manage. It is very essential not to judge a dyspraxic person against their character if they are struggling. It is not a form of bad management or laziness. There are health and other well-being side effects of the limitations that are ignored.
* not to randomly test & put on the spot,
Never use a dyspraxic person's difficulties to test their abilities with inappropriate judgements of strengths and weaknesses or to put them on the spot which not enabled them to manage situations or to communicate effectively
* not too demanding,
A reminder that a person with difficulties a dyspraxic person has is not a choice or a form of character. So never impose impatient or intolerant demands, otherwise, you will not bring the best out of them
* not ignore limitation without shaming
Because of difficulties a person lives with it does mean do have some limitations on their abilities and coping mechanisms.
A mentioned elsewhere, negative side effects on the physical have been can cause harm towards a person with differences. So it essential not to undermine if to dismiss any kind of limitations. It is not the fault of individuals with dyspraxia for their difficulties so you should not be critical, disrespectful or make them shameful.
* Not impose spontaneous pressures
impose spontaneous requests or demands
There are some expectations to follow anything spontaneous by others when it comes to something out of the ordinary and last minute. This including examples at short notice such as a weeks trip abroad or attending a music concert.
Before you make a spontaneous request you need to take into consideration of a person's difficulties can affect how they cope.
Also to consider whenever it was inappropriate time based on their circumstances or what they are going through at the time. You should never attack a person with differences against their character if they react not in a way you expect from them.
In summary, you should not impose spontaneous requests. Instead, talk about it as an idea and listen fully on whether it will be appropriate and in some cases discuss options in detail the make sure person with differences is not going to be compromised in any way.
Enable a person to manage their life and not let their difficulties held them back is essential to understand and value a person with dyspraxia way to adjust their daily life. Due to the variating types of difficulties from person to person, the kind of adjustments is not the same for everyone with differences.
* Routines & procedures to enable to cope,
There are variations on particular procedures and routines with the person need to do to maintain their stability and ability to manage several situations and circumstances.
Examples might include note-taking having regular times out or a mini evaluation.
* Tools, additional aids & patience
Adjustment doesn't just apply to procedures but also references or tools. For example, if someone with short-term may need to refer to note regularly. Whatever the kind of just explain need to do it must be supported and respected and not be found on or be shamed.
* not to demonise, block & deny their adjustments,
Regarding how you think it's unusual odd any adjustments a dyspraxic person may have to undertake never criticise or deny the adjustment procedures. Otherwise, you are disrupting their own way of coping with their daily lives.
* if a person with dyspraxia is explaining how their difficulties affect a specific situation which was important to need to be aware of never dismiss their expressions or used their difficulties to order them down.
* Patience
Some cases take longer to complete particular tasks recalling information and digesting comprehend information. you must never use their difficulties to cause unnecessary strain which affects to have a person with differences ability to function.
* challenging unplanned questions & testing
Because memory can affect a person with Dyspraxia, never demand challenging questions or create toxic arguments. If a person with differences has informed their difficulties never use this to test on the spot with devil's advocate scenarios or any unplanned information which takes them longer to prepare to answer. Don't be offensive or be disrespectful related to their difficulties.
* Don't pressure for expressions & insight unplanned
If you notice a person with certain differences in abilities never impose pressurising demands for them to express their experiences on the spot & on short notice. Making demands at short notice makes it harder for a person with dyspraxia to express their point effectively when they're not as comfortable at the time. Modify your tone on how you speak to them and instead, offer to listen to them when they are more comfortable.
However, when you are being informed make sure you stay patient to have an open mind and avoid quick judgement especially when all the expressions or insight are not fully shared.
Any form of impatience response and demands can lead to comments & guidance which will become unhelpful, making a person with differences feeling inadequate
* Wrong presumptions are made become of the kind of difficulties that is not visible leading to false typecasting band hostile accusations.
* Not make a simple suggestion which is unhelpful and irrelevant with have context & insight.
* Not to profile a dyspraxic person with any references of less than average intelligence.
* Stop making belittling & demonising language
* Never make negative presumptions with ordering language against them when they have done nothing wrong including their ability speeds
* If a person with differences is asking for help which others can manage never communicate to them which implies that they are lazy or a nuisance.
Because of the type of difficulties a person may live with mini attempted to be considerate and look out for others. This includes helping others out by providing assistance or guidance. There are no generalisation levels of efforts and considerate a person with differences makes and it varies from person to person.
* Showing appreciation of efforts & consideration
It is important to show appreciation when a Dyspraxic person when they are making special consideration effort and action. Especially when they face greater pressures and intolerance and in some cases unfair disrespect.
* Regular appreciation reminders
Every so often is important to remind show appreciation and why. Especially if any efforts dyspraxic a person cannot be made by anyone else
* The appreciation exchange
A person with differences must be regularly is being appreciated because it will affect how is so appreciated by others. In other words, if a person with differences is constantly being criticised, disrespected or undervaluing and not likely to show that in return to anyone.
* Do not exploit their voice
If a dyspraxic person is taking action or to speak up against something that is not right never use technically, false allegations & inconsistent responses to silence their voice. This is damaging their liberation and is an indirect form of discrimination by violating their basic human rights
* Challenge their ability against their difficulties
if a person is starting something important but their difficulties affect fully articulating points or to recall information never make remark what they are sharing. You are using their difficulties to take them less seriously and they will see that as an insult.
* Making inappropriate suggestions against expressions
if a person with differences is saying important concern and issue never respond with inappropriate suggestions with the implies that are less intelligent. For example, if a person is sharing an increasing amount of harassment and hate crimes don't make suggestions go to a learning disability social group. It's a form of misguiding insults which imply less intelligent presumptions.
* Don't impose pressures on an environment & climates that affect a dyspraxic person cope and to maintain stability
* Any change of procedures & requirements for a service, will take longer for a dyspraxic person with hidden differences. For example at restaurants or certain public transport services with compulsory ordering screens & compulsory credit cards payments at cafes, shops & restaurants rather the speaking a person and paying cash. So don't make demanding pressures if a dyspraxic person may appear slower or may be struggling.
So never use a person's differences to pressure or demand which damage their ability to function.
* Some may appear slower in ability speeds. However you never but put a strain by making speed up. This is especially when you didn't provide extra time in the first place. If a situation or matter is urgent to complete quicker mention this upfront without the demanding language such as "hurry up" or "stop being slow"
Support and respect their sense of value
Realise their differences are real and do not shame or pressurise them in any way.
Take time to understand how their differences affect them in all types of life balance along with the different climates and coping environments.
Avoid demands of unrealistic expectations and realise the limitation on their abilities and coping mechanisms
Be aware that there are very dangerous consequences when their sense of value is not respected and when their coping mechanisms are pushed to the limit.
Always give them their own personal space including time outs and create their personal development.
Modify how you communicate and interact to make sure they fully understand. But do not go excessive or overloading.
it is essential to show support and to respect their adjustments actions and routines for a person with differences, no matter how odd or unusual it is.
Final Point
Everyone can follow the advice on this project with empathy, patience, encouragement with an open mind you can get more out of a person with dyspraxia and can be positive aspect to your family, friends, relationships and all paths of society.
Also, many people with differences have positive strengths and positive qualities and attributes. Focus on these more and you can more out of them positively.
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