For family members

If you wish to get in touch with a neurodivergent family member, avoid offloading your emotions (such as frustrations, grudges, or unresolved challenges) as this can unintentionally diminish the other person’s positive spirit, especially around Christmas.

Some experiences may not feel relevant to you, but every person has the right to be listened to and heard. Never unload your emotions at a time when a neurodivergent person is denied the space to share theirs without being made to feel insignificant. Likewise, avoid expressing rage, resentment, or prolonged frustration.

Keep conversations short and focused, ideally no longer than 15–20 minutes.

Overloading emotional discussions not only makes it harder for a neurodivergent person to offer support or empathy, but can also lead to emotional strain, alienation, and harm to their mental health. This may disrupt their coping strategies, sense of purpose, relationships, and future opportunities.

Guidance to everyone

Parties
Parties may not always be a positive experience for everyone attending, especially in environments where people aim to create high energy and excitement. These settings can become very busy and overwhelming. It is important not to be swept up in the atmosphere at the expense of others.

For some neurodivergent people, adapting to a fast-paced and crowded environment can be extremely pressuring. People have different abilities, and some process situations more slowly than others. To help maintain a positive experience for everyone, consideration and respect are essential.

This includes:

Avoiding physical intimidation or blocking walkways.

Not taking advantage of or deliberately excluding neurodivergent individuals, such as pulling someone away while they are in conversation.

Not using ignorance as an excuse for physical or emotional harm, or for forcing someone out of visibility.

Avoiding social rejection or exclusion based on perception or assumptions. Using a person's difference is never a justification for mistreatment.

Instead, approach others with an open mind and greater acceptance.

Staying at Home
Some neurodivergent people may not have many friendships to rely on and can experience exclusion. As a result, they may spend New Year’s Eve at home without celebration. Others may not feel comfortable attending family gatherings, especially after spending extended time together over the Christmas period.

Please be considerate and reach out on New Year’s Eve to those who may not have the option to celebrate. If possible, invite them to join you for a small gathering, or offer to spend time with them on New Year’s Day. If this isn’t possible, consider calling or messaging them at midnight or during New Year’s Day to help them feel included.

If Challenging or Reflective Thoughts Arise
Reflective thoughts often occur during the festive season and may intensify for those who have had a difficult year or are currently facing challenges. For some neurodivergent people, these thoughts can become stronger during the New Year, particularly when they feel excluded or socially isolated.

Staying in touch during this time can help distract from these thoughts and provide comfort and reassurance.

Guidance for a neurodivergent person.

Look Forward
New Year’s Day marks the beginning of a new chapter and an opportunity to think positively about the year ahead. While past challenges may have occurred, it is important to focus on future possibilities. Constantly looking back can sometimes repeat negative patterns or emotions. This is why forward thinking, optimism, and positivity are essential.

Start Your Resolution
New Year’s Day is the perfect time to begin your resolutions and start making positive changes. Even if progress feels slow, or if major changes take time, this day represents a starting point. Small steps can still lead to meaningful improvement in your life and circumstances.


Plan Your Year
Alongside New Year’s resolutions, it is equally important to set personal, family, or professional goals for the year ahead. The better the planning, the stronger the outcome. Be prepared to adapt and adjust your plans as needed, and try to stay one step ahead when changes are required