There is an unspoken issue that can easily go unnoticed. Within the world of diverse cultures and communities, there are many people with an ethnicity who lives with hidden differences in society can face many challenges and boundaries due to a lack of understanding, tolerance, patience and empathy.

Some people with differences are well understood and to be a greater insight on their intentions along with their efforts to adjustable and to improve their sense of purpose. 

However, there some attitudes in society that sees a multicultural person with differences negatively. Attitude judgements including a nuisance, irritant, threat or a negative burden.

Regardless of a person lives with Autism (especially at a mild or moderate level), ADHD, Dyslexia, Dyspraxia or Social Anxiety they can be wrongly seen as taboo when sharing their difficulties & experiences with others. This is partly because of the negative stigma associated with typecasting an extreme negative assumption.

Here some examples of the stigma which a multicultural person with differences can face:

*Singled-out

A person with differences can be wrongly branded as too slow or not so bright if they struggle with certain abilities, skills and identity qualities. Some more than others may not only struggle with social-related abilities but also can be easily stand out very negatively.

* Communication

A person with differences can feel alienated or shamed if they struggle or cannot able to communicate the accent or dialect within their culture.

Also if for example, if an average person from an ethnicity normally communicates very quickly and the person with differences might struggle in hearing or grasping what the other person says. This can lead to intolerant and impatience against the person with differences in intelligence and listening skills.

* Disbelieving their differences

A person with differences can easily be disbelieved on any issues which others do not obvious grasp the person with differences is saying.

* Using Differences for attacking their character

A person with differences would be accused to be false acting of being rude or would be testing the other person's patience when in reality they actually not. 

* Shaming

A person with differences can be shamed and demonised for not communicating, wearing clothes or have a physical appearance similar to others within the same culture and would face unpleasant prejudice or hate. For example, a black male who doesn't display the persona like an average man can face such homophobic threats (even if they not gay). Also would face aggressive intimidation on how they appear and would be physically threatened or attacked. 

Also, some would cause psychological scars against a person with differences by making high pitch screams which implies the "freak" or "weirdo" label against a person with differences. Because many people with differences are sensitive with certain could cause damaging anxiety attacks or mental health-related disruptions.

*Disrespectful insults

A person with differences can face being provoked upset through manipulative aggregation as a way to define their character or to make mental denigrating comments such as "Mad", "fool" & " stupid" and much more. 

When this occurs, negative gossiping and innuendo assumptions can be made against a person with differences to a level when they singled out, shamed. This is followed by further harassment and intimidation, leading the person with differences out of society and not be able to integrate for their own safety and dignity.

* Masking

Because anyone who displays their differences can face being wrongly discredited are pressurised to mask their differences to blend into society without prejudice or shame.

Many boundaries can occur when a person with differences are masking their difficulties. It can affect their daily life as well as like goals & opportunities. Even when masking some people do notice their differences and can be judged as undesirable or as a reject.

* Sharing or seeking help

A person with differences can easily be shunned, disbelieved and rejected when a person with differences is sharing or finding someone for help, advice and understanding and empathy then things are challenging. This can cause damaging shame which things go wrong.

* Typecasing and disrupting differences

Other people from other cultures can wrongly see an ethnic minority with differences as a threat and to a level, they are provoked upset to an as a way for the person with differences to be isolated with shame and embarrassment.

When a person with differences are with families, friends, acquaintances & other contacts at home, at the workplace the some can be supported and respected if they are fully understood. However, some people with differences can be wrongly shamed in all environments for disclosing their condition. Sharing to improve understanding and sharing in some cases leads to further problems.

* Pressures & consequences of Masking

To avoid stigma a person with differences avoid sharing or to disclose their differences. 

Others do not accept or tolerate their difficulties and disregard their differences unrealistically and can be threatened not to display their differences otherwise it can cause shame to others around them. This is regardless of the other person is well educated about their differences or not.

This can be dangerous when situations when masking can backfire at any time, leading to excessive tiredness, mental health problems and high amounts of anxiety and emotional despair. 

* Burden stigma

One of the greatest barriers of a person with differences to disclosing their condition can be seen as a burden to their cultural heritage. This is regardless of the communities and gatherings.   Also disclosing their difficulties also can as wrong to their family values.

Here some negative examples which can force a person with differences to suffer in silence:

1. Lacking pride

They can be shamed accusing of lacking pride and lowering themselves and be pressurised to mask and pretend they don't live with any differences.

2. Character shaming

A person with differences can be accused of making excuses of laziness for not having the same abilities as others.

3. Low intelligence shaming

Any expression and feelings a person with differences shares can face some intolerant responses and in some cases arguments accused of lacking any perspective or context of the outside world

4. Harassment & humiliation

Some people with differences can be easily intimidated with false labels against them such as homophobic hate (even if the person with differences is not gay) or face mental related derogatory shame. Also, can be easily shamed as a fool, idiot, fake or arrogant if their differences are either disapproved or irritates others.

5. Intolerance

Attitudes can occur against a person with differences wrongly labelled as rude and disrespectful. Especially if a person with differences struggle to interact and have the same abilities as others in the same or other culture. Their differences can lead to hostility and heated environments against them as a punishment.

They can be also be challenged and face destructive criticism which makes them feel very disorganised, foolish or shame. Some can even receive ultimatum threats to not display their differences or they will be shamed and humiliated.

In public places, a person with differences can be physically walked into, blocked be threatened or and constantly knocked over as a way to disapprove and to shame their perceptions relates to their differences.

6. Boundaries of sharing

They can easily be disbelieved or wrongly blamed especially if the other person is not grasping anything beyond anything visual or obvious

Also, a person with differences can be made to feel like an attention seeker or inadequate with facing lectured with unfair comparisons on other people with neurotypical abilities with hard examples they face.

They would be dismissed being patronised on status quo excuses "that's the way it is", "get a grip" & deal with it.

If a person with differences is under constant pressure, not only this can lead to mental health problems in the long term but also depression and other harmful examples which affect their personal safety and their life.

Any constant negativity can damage their basic and expected skills, abilities and personality qualities (such as communications, socialising, compassion and empathy)

Any sort of environment which they face or any sort of negativity against a person with differences can on any contacts and relationships with others. This includes sensitive emotions and becoming less adaptable to any environment.

The importance of having the right understanding and not making the wrong judgement. 

Here a few examples:

* Not judge a person's differences are not a form of laziness or failure

* We must not judge their differences it is not their fault

* A person's differences is not a betrayal of their family, community or culture

We need to make allowances and not to use ethics, standards, expectations or morals to shame them.

Make allowances to support and allowing the person with differences (no matter how unusual) to make their own adjustments as a way to maintain their stability.

It is very important to make sure they can be at their best and not to use their differences to bring the worst out of them.

Make more time to understand without making a judgement but don't expect them to expose everything.

Move away from perceiving judgements with differences

You must accept that their differences are not their fault or a form of failure

You must accept that a person with differences can get on better with certain people better than others and not use to create uneasy environments such as jealously or irony.

Also not to make unrealistic pressure which may be impossible with language which is unhelpful such as 

"You are capable of.."

 or 

"I expect you to.."

Any finally respect their sense of value and never use your personal ethics, value or principles to obstruct or violate their own way or maintain their stability and to manage life their way.

Never use a person differences or any human error or mistakes as faults, disgrace or failure.

Support and respect their sense of value

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Realise and accept the difficulties of a person with hidden differences are real and do not shame or pressurise them in any way.

Take time to understand how their differences affect them in all types of life balance along with the different climates and coping environments.

Avoid demands of unrealistic expectations and realise the limitation on their abilities and coping mechanisms

Be aware that there are very dangerous consequences when their sense of value is not respected and when their coping mechanisms are pushed to the limit.

Always give them their own personal space including time outs and create their personal development.

Modify how you communicate and interact to make sure they fully understand. But do not go excessive or overloading.

it is essential to show support and to respect their adjustments actions and routines for a person with differences, no matter how odd or unusual it is.

A person with hidden differences with ethnicity should never feel that they are shameful of their cultural heritage or their family values.

If everyone can follow the advice on this project with empathy, patience, encouragement with an open mind you can get more out of a person with differences and be positive to your family, friends, relationships and all paths of society.

Also, many people with differences have positive strengths and positive qualities and attributes. Focus on these more and you can more out of them positively.